Friday, September 24, 2010

What The Heck Is Love?

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. You wanna know what actual's children's answer for "what is love"?

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."
Terri, age 4.

"If you want to learn love better, you should start with a friend you hate."
Nikka, age 6.

"Love is a blind. That's what I read in the book."
Najwa Amira, age 13 (haha)

 "Teenagers who claim to love someone don’t really love them, because they don’t know what love actually is. Real love is extremely, unconditional."

 To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with.

How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement, you earthlings. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you.

And it’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.

But the problem is, how does the freaking unconditional love fit in with relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? It doesn’t, really. From what I think as a teenage kid la. It doesn’t “fit” in anywhere.

Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny or maybe lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person - like teenagers nowdays who likes to change their partner. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.

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